Simple Principles To Get You Started
Strange question? Perhaps but could this be the reason why some of us are experiencing a conundrum of modern syndromes/unexplained illnesses such as chronic fatigue, various disorders (e.g. digestive, sleep, eating disorders), muscle aches/pains, etc? In recent years, these have left many doctors baffled. More so, us Christians especially as we fast, pray and bind the devil. But are we giving the enemy far too much credit when in fact we should be looking closer to home? (more…)
Spring is in the air and many of us take time out to spring clean our homes, garages, etc to get rid of all the clutter and dirt we have accumulated over the past seasons. But as you go about doing this, have you considered giving your mind a spring clean too, to get rid of any emotional clutter and junk you may have accumulated?
After a while of people telling you, “you are not good enough”, your confidence can get knocked, especially when you start to hear it time and time again. You may find you start to second guess yourself and self-doubt who you believe you are. But please be rest assured that greatness lies within you. Just because others can’t see it or fail to appreciate it has nothing to do with the matter. (more…)
Do you ever feel unsure of who you really are? If so, you are not the only one. Many of us wander around with no sense of identity, understanding of who we are much less of what we want. This is no surprise when you consider the fact that we get tagged with various ‘labels’ such as ‘looser’, unlovable, forsaken and damaged, as we make our way through life. This ends up skewing our sense of who God created us to be. We base our identities on who/what others say we are, hence, spend our lives trying to fit into their mould. As a result, we never feel comfortable within ourselves nor can we get on with the purpose of our existence.
Want to avoid emotional entanglements? Follow my four simple tips to help you become real with yourself:
- Be Honest About The Way You Feel: This could be about the way you feel about a person (including yourself), a situation and/or experience. And accept the feelings and emotions that show up such as fear, grief, loss, hurt, etc. But don’t settle there. Take steps to bring about your restoration.
- Stop Hiding: Don’t be afraid to reveal your real self to others. It takes a lot of energy to keep a mask on, whilst keeping up a pretense. By the way, hiding can involve you hiding both your good parts (e.g. qualities, skills, achievements, experience, etc) and your bad parts (e.g. shortcomings, failures, challenges, etc). If the people around you are not comfortable with the real you or don’t accept you for who you are, I suggest you consider changing your network.
- Accept The Person You Have Been Created To Be (warts and all): Many of us spend our lives trying to be someone else or change ourselves as opposed to discovering and maximising all that we are. And as a result, you may find yourself being unfulfilled in certain areas of your life (if not all). To avoid this, I encourage you to rediscover yourself. By this, I mean taking the time out to understand who you are, what makes you tick, your qualities, likes/dislikes, talents, personality, passions, desires, strengths, and areas of development. I call this your personal inventory. Once done, you now have a basis to make smarter decisions and choices for your life.
- Avoid Dancing To The Tune Of Others: This happens when you have no real clarity of the person you are and/or you are inclined to be a ‘people pleaser’. In so doing, you allow others to call the shots of your life. Years down the line, you look back and wonder how you ended up where you find yourself today (e.g. your career, relationships, finances, etc). To overcome this, you will need to take charge of your life. After all, you are the CEO of Your Life Inc. So start by creating strategies and a plan of action based on your life vision, mission and purpose – not that of your parents, family, friends, boss, religious leader, etc.